Do you judge your self-worth based on what others think of you or what you know about yourself?
Some people have been commenting lately on my beard. Whether they’re saying it’s too long, too unkempt, or just weird overall, I’ve been hearing a lot about it. Back in the day that would have bothered me, but now it just slides right off. That’s because I have a high self-worth, and a low need for approval.
If you haven’t been to one of my talks or trainings, you may be confused about what this means. Overall, it means that I don’t let what people say get to me. Because when they comment on my beard, it’s not really about me, but about them. People will ultimately feel the way they feel, no matter how I respond to their criticisms or compliments.
Need for approval is the act of continually seeking recognition from those around you to confirm that you did your job correctly, look a certain way, or are a good person.
High self worth and a low need for approval are interconnected attributes. Learning to have a low need for approval is a hard process in the beginning, but an important behavior. Realizing that what you think of yourself is more important than what anyone else will say about you, whether it’s your selling ability, your style of clothes, or your good-looking beard.
So if and when I make the decision to shave, it’ll be because I wanted to, not because of what others said.
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